Two days ago I was in Las Vegas for a speech on "Relationship Intelligence (tm)" to the Chamber of Commerce at their beautiful new offices in the Towne Center complex. Sweet. Good venue, great people and a very good experience all around.
The night before my speech I stayed at the Rio Hotel and Resort. I dined alone and during my delightful dinner it occurred to me that somebody was going to become the luckiest person in Las Vegas that night. So, I figured that it might as well be me. :-)
Now, I'm not much of a gambler, nor did I have a big wad of cash with which I could play the odds, so I just took my "I'm lucky tonight" attitude and wandered the casino for a while. Finally one slot machine caught my eye and I invested $20 in it. On my third "spin" it paid off! $100.
So I hit "cash out" and took my winnings for a walk. Then I stopped at a second machine, inserted $20 and won $60. Cashed out again and walked. The third machine accepted my $20 bill and promptly returned $50 to me. Machine number four gave me $55. This was getting really interesting.
I placed $50 of my new winnings on a bet at the Roulette table and lost. I considered placing another bet but I didn't "feel" lucky, so...
I retired for the night. Just stopped gambling and went to my room.
Now you might be saying, "Jim, you need a better story. This one just stops cold."
But consider for a minute that I went to bed with "house money" in my pocket. Granted, it wasn't much but it was more than I had spent.
Consider further that I heeded the instincts that said to me "you're done for now."
We all have those intuitive moments but we often don't respect them.
On another occasion I sat down at a blackjack table in Reno, NV with only 20 minutes before my airport ride arrived. So I placed $20 on the table and announced to the dealer, "Linda, we have only 20 minutes to build an empire, please deal the cards!" She smiled and dealt.
While I was at that table I won over $250! Then I got into the car and left.
Maybe it's the short time frame that motivated me or just the knowledge that I wasn't going to bet much, but I know for sure that I was controlling my attitude. And while I was controlling my attitude, I was in fact "luckier."
It is my experience that self-confidence, that feeling of being able to handle what you are dealing with, is one of the most powerful emotions. A confident person attracts support. They gain cooperation from others and obstacles often disappear for them. Confident people seem to talk themselves out of traffic tickets more often than others do. They also get more dates and make more sales. Confidence is contagious and attractive. Others love to be around confident people.
Where does confidence come from? It comes from intention and honesty. Confidence is not blindly repeating "I think I can" and acting falsely. It is knowing that you can handle whatever happens; good or bad. It is also being not only willing, but insistent on knowing the truth about your situation and yourself. When we know the truth and are clear in what we want then our intentions guide us well.
Intention is another way of describing Goal Setting. In an earlier blog post I said that we need to tell the world what we want. Only then can it reorganize itself to bring us our desires. And it truly does. When we are clear on our intentions we tend to get the things we desire. It's like using your car's turn signals to let the rest of the world know where you intend to go, so that they can get out of the way, or help you.
What do you want? Take your time and be clear about what you want. Write it down. It helps.
Now, I just have one question for you, "do you feel lucky?"
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